Imagine being told to pack up your three-day-old newborn and 18-month-old toddler, drive three and a half hours through a snowstorm… all to make it to a wedding. Wild, right?
That’s just the beginning of this week’s story: because the drama only snowballs into kids being banned from weddings and a brother-in-law stuck in the middle! I’m also sharing the ultimate mother-in-law move: trying to hijack the bride’s carefully planned seating chart just to cozy up to her ex. You cannot make this stuff up.
And of course, we’ll wrap it all up with quick-hit confessions: think sabotaged bouquets, off-white dresses, and a garter-removal protest that had the whole room cringing.
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Episode Chapter Markers
00:00 Introduction
00:22 Christa’s Journey into Wedding Drama
02:01 Review of the Week
03:03 Introducing Wedding Dilemmas
04:18 Kids at Weddings Dilemma
10:52 Red Flag, Green Flag Wedding Edition
13:59 Story Time: Wedding Drama
17:38 Hospital Discharge and Wedding Rehearsal Drama
18:32 The Snowstorm Journey with Newborns
19:35 Unreasonable Family Demands
20:44 The Wedding Day Ordeal
23:59 Post-Wedding Reflections and Family Tensions
27:51 Story Two: The Mother-in-Law’s Meddling
32:59 Confessions and Listener Stories
Must-Hear Insights and Key Moments
- Snowstorm Showdown – A couple was expected to drive 3.5 hours through a blizzard with a three-day-old newborn and a toddler.
- Fresh Out of Delivery – The bride still demanded attendance, even though the mom had just given birth days before.
- MIL’s Seating-Chart Sabotage – Another listener story of a mother-in-law secretly trying to swap the bride’s seating plan at the venue.
- The 11-Year Revenge Laugh – Despite her MIL predicting divorce within a year, the couple is still happily married over a decade later.
- Bridal Shower Gone Wrong – The MIL’s last-minute bridal-shower invite left the bride’s family scrambling.
- Family Photo Standoff – The MIL refused joint photos, forcing the wedding photographer into an awkward split-family shoot.
- Confessions Segment – From a guest who slept in the groom’s bed with the best man to the cousin yelling during the garter toss.
- The Ivory Dress Excuse – A rehearsal-dinner fiasco when a sister tried to pass off an off-white dress as “not white.”
- Song-Stealing Drama – A future sister-in-law sparks outrage over a DJ playing “her wedding song” at someone else’s reception.
Words of Wisdom: Standout Quotes from This Episode
- “People always say these MIL horror stories can’t be real… but I get them in my inbox every single week.” – Christa Innis
- “If you feel the need to say, ‘It’s not white, it’s ivory,’ then guess what? It’s probably white.” – Christa Innis
- “Some venues just don’t want to tell a pushy relative ‘no’, and that’s how the seating-chart sabotage begins.” – Christa Innis
- “I would love to hear these stories from the mother-in-law’s perspective. What does she think actually happened?” – Christa Innis
- “If a tradition makes everyone cringe—like the garter toss, maybe it’s time we let that one die.” – Christa Innis
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Christa Innis: Hey guys. Welcome back to another episode of Here Comes The Drama. I’m so glad you’re here. We’ve got a wild episode for you today. I’m your host, Christa Innis. If you’re new here, welcome. I’m so glad you’re joining us and I can’t wait for you to dive into this crazy drama with me. If you’re not new, well welcome back.
I’m glad you’re here. This is the podcast that dives into the chaos, hilarity, and unforgettable moments of weddings and events. Um, just a little about my story is I’ve been a part of so many weddings over the years. Um, I’ve been a bridesmaid and made of honor probably about 10 times I’ve been a bride myself.And then I’ve been hired for different events, day of coordinator, partial wedding planners. I just, people reach out to me to help with different events. And so it all started one day on my maternity leave, I decided to make a video about wedding drama and it blew up. So from there, people just started sending me all these crazy stories and I would react to them.I turn ’em into skits. Never in a million years did I think I would be making skits in my bathroom for you guys. Um. But that’s just what life turned into. Um, someone asked me recently, do you feel awkward or ridiculous when you do these? And yes, 150000%. Sometimes I do these and I’m like, what is my life?What am I doing? Um, but then I see you guys’ comments and I’m like, you know what? People like it. I can laugh at myself. Uh, and it’s great. It’s, it’s a lot of fun. It’s fun to come up with these characters and I always think I’m making them so dramatic and I’m like, yes, it’s for entertainment. And then people comment or send me a message and they’re like, this is exactly how someone in my life is.And I’m like, that is completely wild. I. I’m so lucky to say I haven’t personally experienced this. I have seen things happen to other people, of course, and seen personal or seen stories personally. Um, but luckily no one in my life has treated me like these mother-in-law, mom. They are sister stories. Um, so it’s wild. It’s wild. And I never thought the direction would go this way.
Wedding Dilemmas 911: Child-Free Chaos & Family Feuds
So I’ve, I’m gonna mix things up. I like to mix things up, keep things interesting on here. So we’re gonna start, um, well, first off, I actually wanna read the review of the week. Okay. So these are reviews that people leave on Apple Podcasts. So wherever you listen, if you are enjoying the podcast, I would absolutely love for you to leave a review. It just really helps more people hear of the show. This one says “I became obsessed with your skits through Facebook. I’m sure like everyone else, and love the drama, so I’m glad that you have a podcast too.” Such a great listen. Thank you for your kind review. It is so good to hear that because jumping into the podcast world was completely different. From doing the skits, but I was getting this influx of stories coming in and there were so many that I just couldn’t act out. Like, you know, I can act out bits, bits and pieces of them, but some were just so detailed and I was like, if I do this without sharing this part, it’s not gonna mean the same thing.
So this was a way to get more stories out and give you guys more entertainment in a different way. So. I’m glad it’s been received well. Okay. Um, a couple weeks ago I introduced a new segment called Wedding Dilemmas. Over time, people have been sending me so many different, um, stories in my inbox, um, whether that’s on social media or in my email, and I wasn’t sure what to make of them.
Sometimes I handle them one-on-one. Sometimes I’ll just reply and I was like, what if we just create it as a segment on the podcast? It’s not gonna be a regular se segment. It’s just gonna be as I receive. Some here and there. Um, but these are just, they’re not full on wedding stories, but it’s just something that’s currently going on or people just don’t know how to address them or it’s something that happened and I’m like, this is something good to bring up.
So people that are listening, maybe they’re going through a similar situation and, and it could help them. So. Here’s how that works. Send me a current or past wedding dilemma and I will give you my complete, honest and unprofessional advice. And why I’m saying that is because I’m not a current, like, full-time wedding planner, so I’m not giving you like, this is what you need to do. I’m just giving it to you as a, as a girlfriend, okay? So I’m just gonna tell you what I would do in this situation. Um, take what works for you and, and leave the rest. You know what? And most of it’s just gonna be for enter entertainment anyways, so, um, it’s just a little, a little fun thing. If you wanna submit one of your own, please email me. Hello@christainnis.com. Subject line Wedding dilemma. Okay, so here’s the first one I got. We actually did a, uh, it was a unpopular opinion. Yes, unpopular opinion about kids at weddings.
Um, in our Instagram story, we always do some kind of hot take and we always do confessions. Someone sent me this and I thought this was a really important response. She said, comment regarding the kids at wedding events. “I’m not mad or upset if my kids can’t come, but I am mad or upset when the brighter groom get mad that I can’t come if my kids can’t.” Okay. So this is a common thing I’ve heard, and when I started making content about kids at weddings, because people would send me these stories or I see certain things.I was like, why would the bride and groom get mad? I was like, I don’t even understand that. But apparently that’s a thing too, where they just expect because they’re having a wedding, even if kids aren’t invited, that people should just be able to come and drop, drop everything. One, finding a babysitter is not always the easiest thing or trusting someone to watch your kids. Not always the easiest thing. Sometimes dates don’t work out. Abusers are expensive. Sometimes you just don’t wanna leave your kids. And that as a mom, I get that. That’s totally understandable. The, there’s so many more hurdles once you become a parent.
Um, but let me finish this because there’s so much more to this story. Um, she says, “both my brothers had child-free weddings when I had children, one at. One. Okay. At one wedding, one was seven months old. The next a two and a half year old, and I was seven months pregnant. We traveled to the town for their wedding and knew no one not attending the wedding to watch our son. Both weddings were at a stand one. Both weddings were at a standalone type venue, not near a hotel. In both cases, we made our appearance as guests and left very early to be the ones to put our son down for 9:00 PM bedtime. So he wasn’t too long with a sitter that we didn’t know in an unfamiliar place. Both times the brides were livid that we didn’t stay to enjoy ourselves like they wanted.”
So I have a lot to say about this personal situation. Me personally, and this is what I told her when I replied, me personally, I could never imagine telling siblings of my, of myself or my husband’s siblings. Your kids can’t come. That is like, that’s your niece. Those are your nieces and nephews. Like it was for, for us. We wanted them a part of our day. I know, and not everyone is the same. But to exclude your siblings’ kids just seems like wild to me, especially so little. Like none of mine were that young at the time. I think, I think maybe my niece, the youngest nieces were maybe three when I got married, but even like, like seven months old, I can’t imagine telling a sibling that they can’t bring their kids.
But that’s, and then the other side of it is. They, uh, drove to you. They are willing to travel to you when, in a place where they don’t know anybody, they had to find a babysitter. They didn’t know, which I don’t know if I would do that in a town where I didn’t know anybody. Hire a babysitter where I’ve never met before for a two and a half year old and a seven month old. To me, that is like, I wouldn’t personally do it. Um, you know, if you had an extra grandparent that wasn’t a part of the wedding, that could come. Maybe that’s a little more, maybe I would do that. But then for them to get mad that they left early so they could be the ones to put their kids to bed, they made this long trek with two small kids. So for me, I think I would address the situation before the wedding. And say, here’s what’s gonna happen. We can only stay for a short amount of time. We wanna be the ones to put our kids down for bed. Um, it’s hard to explain when someone doesn’t have kids or, you know, they’re just thinking everyone can just drop, drop everything for their wedding.
Um, so it’s really hard if you wanted them there really bad, I feel like you should have allowed them to come with the kids. Um, but then again. Either way, if they’re sticking to a bedtime, they’re probably gonna wanna leave at that certain time. So we have to remember as the couple getting married as guests, you have to ultimately do what’s best for you. And like for me, again, I would never want someone like in like the wedding to feel like I’m gonna be mad at them. Like it’s not a, it’s. Your kids are more important to you is what I’m trying to say. So that was a wild dilemma. I’m wondering how things are now or if her brothers have kids now, or you know, how that kind of turn of events was. We didn’t have kids other than our nieces and nephews. I’ve talked about this so many times before, times before. Um, some people are all or nothing. Um, so. I don’t know. I just think it’s kind of interesting when, when you cut family members out. I shouldn’t say cut family members out when you just have limits, but you don’t let your family members, you know, or understand more for your family members. That’s all I’ll say about that.
Okay. The next dilemma, “I had a cousin, RSVP for two people. Totally fine. Then she shows up with her boyfriend, her three kids, and her new boyfriend’s mom. What? Six people, no warning, expecting seats, foods, favors, and all of the above. What should we have done?” That is wild.
So, there’s many different ways you can do this. And again, this is gonna be my unprofessional opinion advice. It’s gonna depend on how you’re, how close you are with this person. If this is a cousin that you’re close to, like maybe they are Ed for a boyfriend or a, okay, wait, it sounds like, okay, so it sounds like it was the cousin and her boyfriend, so you’re just assuming they’re invited. Now, this also sounds like it was probably a no kids wedding. So that’s a whole other layer because if you only invited the cousin and the boyfriend and the kids weren’t invited, I’m guessing that’s the whole other layer. So if it were me and I was doing a no kids wedding and they came with their kids, um, I would probably have a wedding planner or a day of coordinator be like, Hey, excuse me. Um, I see that you brought some extra guests here. Unfortunately, this is a 21 and up wedding. Um, so we’re gonna have to have your boyfriend’s mom maybe take the kids. Is that possibility? Just ’cause there aren’t enough seats. We’ve already planned for X amount and we don’t have extra seats. Um, because that’s a lot of extra people.
That’s not just three. That’s not just one extra person. We’re talking four extra people. So. That’s where your day of coordinator or planner should really come in. Um, if you had no clues was happening, we need to be firm with these people. I mean, you can kind of just be upfront and just let ’em know, but the bride and groom should not be dealing with this.
I hope it didn’t ruin your day, and I, I’m really curious to see what actually happened. All right, guys. If you have any other wedding dilemmas or situations going on. Please send me an email hello@christainis.com and subject line wedding 9 1 1 or wedding dilemma and we will address it on the show.
Red Flag Weddings: Exes, Lap-Sitting MOHs & Bad-Vibe Cakes
Next up is the Red Flag, green Flag wedding edition. So I’m gonna read a couple of statements here, think about it at home and, and respond out loud if you’d like. Um, okay. “The officiant is the groom’s ex.” Oh, completely. Red flag. What? Why are we doing that? “The couple has every guest to Venmo a hundred dollars instead of bringing gifts.” Red flag. I just read a similar story about this, where they’re expecting people to pay. It’s almost like paying for like a gala or gala or something. They’re basically telling you like you have to pay a ticket in advance to come to our wedding, which is wild. Um, yeah, that’s a red flag. You should be able to gift based on one, what you can afford, and two, how close you are to the person. That’s my personal, personal take on that.
Um, “the couple schedules their wedding the same weekend as a sibling’s graduation.” Same weekend or same day. If it’s the same day, that’s a red flag. ’cause usually, you know, dates ahead of time, same weekend. That sucks. For parents, for family that have to go to both, but I wouldn’t say it’s a red flag necessarily. Sometimes they might think it’s easier because of, you know, family being in town or, um, you know, just let’s do it all at once. You know, if they’re doing it to get outta the graduation and making people choose, then that’s kind of a red flag.
“The groom tells the bride’s dad he’s banned from walking her down the aisle because this day is about me, not you.” Um, a red flag. I would hope we all agree on that. “The bridesmaid demands her dress be altered to stand out more because I should look hot too.” Um, red flag. I’ve been a part of weddings or seen weddings where. You can, you wanna look good as a bridesmaid, of course you wanna be comfortable, but you also need to just like, if they want you on a certain dress, you just gotta suck it up. If you wanna be a part of the wedding and you wanna be a supportive friend, just be like, yes, I’m gonna wear that. You don’t need to huge like change to your dress to stand out more. You are gonna stand out just enough, I promise.
“The maid of honor grabs the mic during speeches and announces her own engagement, mid reception.” Red flag. Uh, “the maid of honor flirts with the grooms the groom all night, and ends up and ends the evening sitting on his lap.” Uh, red Flag, the guest. “A guest proposes on the dance floor right after the Couple’s first dance.” First dance red flag. “The photographer storms out mid reception because the bride asks for more candid.” A red flag.
I, if you guys do not watch my weekly YouTube videos, go check it out because I’m trying to think of dates ’cause I’m filming this ahead of schedule, but I wanna say like a week, it’ll be like, came out a week ago, um, about a photographer situation. Okay, last one. The cake. “The wedding cake collapses and the baker blames the couple for bad vibes.” Um, that’s a red flag. I think those were like all red flags. That’s just, yeah.
Postpartum Road Trip for a Wedding?!
Okay. Oh, here we go. Okay. My microphone unplugged. Okay. There we go. All right, so I’ve got two stories for you today. Like I said, I get so many submissions and I’ve been getting more and more lately, so we thought we would just double up because I always hear responses that are just like, I want more stories. So. Um, that’s what we’re doing. We’re just gonna add in more stories. Uh, if you guys don’t know on YouTube, I also release a new video every single week where I, I read a couple stories, so if you just can’t get enough, I got you covered. All right.
Story number one. “It all started back when my husband and I were dating. We’d been together for two years when my now brother-in-law. Began dating someone. On our third anniversary. My husband proposed when his girlfriend found out, she told me I didn’t deserve it. What? She caused a lot of drama and by the time the wedding came around, she and my brother-in-law were no longer together.” Okay. That’s so wild. Because they weren’t even. They’d already been together for two years, and then the girlfriend came out and said she didn’t deserve it. Okay. “At my wedding, my brother-in-law told us he hoped to have what my husband and I shared one day. Just two days later, he was back with his ex. Fast forward a few years later and they’re engaged.” Oh no! “By then, I already had a child. They asked my husband and me to stand up in their wedding. They also made it clear no kids were allowed, which was fine at the time, but would later become important.” Okay. This is interesting.
This happens so many times where like a hot take earlier in the episode or a confession or a dilemma, like weirdly ties into the story. It’s not planned that way. I don’t see these ahead of time. I see them for the first time, literally right now. Um, so that’s as, wow. It’s gonna be a story about no kids at a wedding. I can tell right now. Okay. And again, it’s wild. I don’t know how old the child is, but again, for a brother to be like, or it’d be brother-in-law to be her husband’s brother, saying that these kids are not her, her kids are not allowed.
“Both of us had reservations about being in the wedding, but we agreed for his brother’s sake. Not long after I found out I was pregnant with a due date right around the time of their wedding. I stepped down from being in the bridal party because there was no way I could commit. I couldn’t even guarantee I’d be there at all since the wedding was three and a half hours away.”
Oh, wow. Yeah. That’s a lot. That’s a lot. “My husband told them he’d still try to participate, but if anything happened, if I went into labor, if I was in the hospital, he would be, he would not be there. They supposedly understood.” I said this before I, I’ll say it again. I would never put my life on pause for someone else’s wedding, and I don’t think that’s a hot take, but I totally agree with them here.
If your wife is pregnant, if you’re pregnant, your partner’s pregnant. You need to be there for them and you need to listen to your own body too. Not be driving four hours if you’re about to have a baby, and vice versa. Um. I feel like I would understand that about anyone in my wedding, so I would hope other people would too.
Um, “my pregnancy ended up having complications the weekend before their wedding. We went to their joint party fully knowing I was scheduled to be admitted into the hospital that week. My husband again reminded them if something happened, he would be, he wouldn’t be at the wedding. They said that was fine.”
I’m wondering, okay, nevermind. I don’t wanna like jump the gun, but the reiteration of them saying it would be fine makes me think that they were just like, oh, it won’t happen. He’s not gonna miss the wedding. Our wedding is most important. That kind of thing. “The baby came on Wednesday, my in-laws came to visit, but instead of celebrating, they brought my husband’s suit to the hospital and told him to get it outta the car because the baby was here.
He had no excuse not to go to the wedding. They just brought the suit in the car at the hospital.” We’re like, all right, baby’s out. You can’t wait. Get that suit on and get in the car with us. You’re going. She also has another child. We, again, we don’t know. This is a toddler, so they’re expecting the mom to now stay home with a toddler and a newborn baby while the husband goes away to a wedding that’s four hours away.
That is wild. Um, “with the pressure from the family, we scrambled to make arrangements. A friend offered to stay with me and our now two kids, so my husband could go. That’s a really nice friend. I was discharged from the hospital Friday night. My husband skipped the rehearsal to take care of me, which apparently upset my future sister-in-law.” To anyone listening the rehearsal.
It’s great. It’s fun. It’s a nice time to get everyone together. It is not 100% necessary to have, or if you cannot make it, it’s not gonna be life or death. Like it’s not that serious. We had two groomsmen that couldn’t make it because of flights and obligations with family, and it happens, it’s fine. Um, I just led a rehearsal a couple weeks, a month ago now, but.
A month ago, and I think there was like three or four people from the wedding party missing the wedding was still great. If you, as long as you know where to stand, you are fine. It’s not that big of a deal. Again, they’re fun to be a part of. It’s great to get everyone together, but if you miss it, it’s not a big deal.
“I was discharged, okay, still, they told him as long as he showed up in the morning, it would be fine. The plan was for him to leave at 6:00 AM but his ride got sick and the wife didn’t want to risk exposing us. My husband told his family he couldn’t travel that far without help for me. They begged us repeatedly to find another way. The only option left for me, fresh wait. The only option left was for me fresh out of the hospital and in pain to go with him. I’m like struggling to read this because this is so outrageous with our three day old newborn and our 18 month old. Okay, so babies even younger or toddlers, even younger than I thought, on a three and a half hour drive through a snowstorm.”
On top of all that, driving fresh out of delivery. Three day old baby, 18 month old, a snowstorm. I don’t think I would do even one component component of this. Um, I think when my daughter was about 18 months, we did a five hour car drive and that was, that was good. But to have two and in a snowstorm, we were not in a snowstorm. It was summer snow. Yeah. That’s, that’s a lot. Oh my gosh. “They said that was great and they’d give us a hotel room.”
Plus. Plus. She just gave birth. She gave birth three days ago. Three days ago. When you’re literally supposed to be resting, you’re not supposed to be getting up and down. You’re not supposed to be like in new, uncomfortable positions and stress on your body can take, make your body take longer to heal. This is completely wild and unacceptable to ask of someone. I understand, like it’s really sad, like it’s your brother and you want your brother there at your wedding, but it is completely unreasonable to ask his new wife who just had a baby three days ago, lug everybody here, plus the brother’s in the wedding.
So she’s gonna be sitting there still healing. Watching a newborn and 18 month old. Oh my gosh. So she used to be in the hotel room. “I guess the drive took four and a half hours. My brother-in-law called several times asking where we were worried we’d be late.” Dude, they’re driving in a snowstorm. This is so wild to me. Am I, I need to know from you guys, like if you’re listening to this. If you’re just listening on the podcast, go to YouTube. I need to know your thoughts on this. Am I freaking out more than I should be? This is completely like I would never ask anybody to do this.
“When we arrived, he seemed excited to see the kids and us. My husband got dressed for the wedding while I still recovering. Plan to sit quietly in the back with the children. Yes. I knew kids hadn’t originally been invited, but the family knew we had no other choice with my health.” This is so wild. They are asking her to get ready to sit in the back with two kids. A toddler, an 18 month old is not gonna sit still. You’re gonna be chasing that baby around a newborn. At least at that age. They’re usually pretty like. Sleepy and they’ll like just hold onto you for the most part. But an 18 month old is me getting up and down and that’s when you really needed someone to like help you with them as much as you can.
Oh my gosh. “As we got into the car to head to the venue a castle, my father-in-law stopped us. He had a long walk. Uh, he had a long talk with my husband. Warning that if I or the kids were seen things would not be okay and might get rough.” What does that mean? Your daughter-in-law just had a baby and you made her drive four and a half hours in a snow storm and now she can’t be seen with either kids?
Oh my gosh. “He begged my husband to still participate in the ceremony promising they figure something out for me and the children. My husband reluctantly agreed, but said we would leave immediately after the ceremony.” I would be livid if someone said that. “Inside my brother-in-law thanked me for understanding. I told him plainly, I don’t, oh, good for you, girl. That was the last thing I said to him. I was taken to a room with nothing but stone floors and thin carpet.” Was this like a jail cell? Like what the hell? “Where I sat with my kids as mice ran around me. When it came time for pictures, no one asked if the kids could be included.”
Dude, guys, this is so wild to me. It they. I like wanna cry for her. This is so outrageous to me. They put a freshly postpartum mom in a room with stone floor and mice are running around her and she holds a newborn and an 18 month old. They’re like, yeah, can you not? Like, we don’t wanna see you. Do you know how like your hormones were after giving birth, your just.
All the things your body goes through. Like I remember like right after giving him birth, like I think I was maybe. A week postpartum, probably not even that much. And we had our family over visiting with the baby and out of nowhere I just felt like all the blood dropped from my face. And I remember my husband looking at me being like, do you need to eat something?
Like, and like his, his brother, my brother-in-law ran out to get us dinner. ’cause he was like, let’s go. I’ll get you guys some food. ’cause we had just been like running around and like, I wasn’t thinking about like eating a full meal. And, you know, you just have so much going on. I just literally just felt like the blood like rush out of my face.
Like I just felt so weak so suddenly, and if it weren’t for my husband and my family being right there and helping, like that could have been really scary. Um, and so you really have to listen to your body and you really have to rest. And the fact that they just completely pushed her aside was like, we just, we don’t care about you.
Like we just want him to get here. At that point, why didn’t the brother-in-law, I don’t know. Why didn’t her husband just drive by himself? I mean, I know she had a friend that was gonna stay with her. I don’t know what happened with the friend, but, oh my gosh, this is wild. I. “Afterward, my husband was furious and ready to leave. My brother-in-law begged him to stay for dinner saying it would look bad if there was an empty seat at the head table. Again, they just care about the looks. My husband refused telling him we weren’t welcome. His brother suggested finding a corner for me and the kids to sit in and put my husband said, no.”
They weren’t going to even give her a seat. Like again, like I get the no kids thing when it does happen, right? But this is your, like this is your blood, this is your, I mean, this is his niece and nephew or nieces or nephews, whatever. Like you can look at them and just be like, you sit in the corner somewhere.
What? Oh my gosh. “We returned to the hotel, left the suite, we returned to the hotel, left the suit on his bed, and that night at 9:00 PM in another stove. In another snow storm, we drove the three and a half hours home.” Okay. That’s wild. I guess just wanting to be home, but like at that point with kids, I would be like, we’re staying here tonight.
That’s also another thing, like traveling with kids is so much harder. All the stuff you have to bring, I’m finally now a little outta the trenches with like, my daughter can sleep almost anywhere as opposed to like needing like, uh, all of the pack and play and. You know, all that extra stuff. Um, but with a newborn, I mean, you need the little, like, I can’t even remember what they’re called. I’m so far out of that now. I’m just like, I don’t know. But, um, bassinet, there we go. That’s it. You just need so much stuff. So the fact that they had to pack all that up, unload it in the hotel room, go to the wedding for what? They were probably there for like a couple hours and then they drove back that night.
Oh my gosh. “A few days later, my in-laws invited us over. I told them I wanted nothing to do with the situation. It hadn’t been a good time for me, for the kids, for our family. They took responsibility even though it wasn’t really their fault and asked me to forgive my brother and sister-in-law because they don’t have kids.” And you were raised better. Okay, first of all. For them to say they took responsibility even though it wasn’t their fault. Sure it wasn’t their fault, but the father-in-law making that comment to the husband, that should have been his moment to stand up and like be like, let’s regroup here. How can we help you?
My in-laws were so amazing postpartum, so amazing. Like they would text me, call me. They would bring food by immediately when they came to see her, they asked how I was doing. They checked in all the time. So when I hear stories about this, how women are disregarded postpartum, it like breaks my heart because you, you will never forget how you were, how you were treated, whether that’s pregnancy, labor, delivery, postpartum. You will never forget how people treated you. Um, I’m really glad and lucky. I had a great experience, this makes me so angry. Because the, the father-in-law saying those things about her and to her, no, I, I couldn’t. Um, and the, they don’t have kid think his things. Yes. You know, once I had kids, like, or my child, I, there were certain things that I was like, oh, I would do that differently. Like, or, you know, seeing a friend, having a kid before be like, oh, I could have stepped in a different way. You know, but this no. My nieces and nephews before having kids were always like, if I were somewhere and like they needed something or like kids are kids, like, I don’t know. Why would I ever make dismiss the mom that just had a baby? No, no thank you.
“Since then, I haven’t spoken to either of them. My husband tried to reach out, but was told that unless I apologized.” For essentially having a baby, there was nothing to discuss. “Now they want her to apologize for having a baby. That wedding turned into the craziest week of our lives, all because we did exactly what the family begged us to do, no matter the cost to meet or our children.”
Yeah, I’ve told so many people this before, your health comes first when it comes to having a baby. If that means saying no to your best friend’s wedding, it means saying no to your own mom, whatever that is, like your help comes first. Um, and I’m sure like looking back, like in hindsight, they would change things, but when you give, when you give an inch to someone like that, you’re, they’re gonna ask for a whole yard.
When Your Mother-in-Law Becomes the Real Wedding Villain
Okay. Story number two. This one’s a little bit shorter. Starts off strong. It says, “this is about my mother-in-law. I’d been dating her son for five years before we got married. She has all sons, which was totally fine, but during that time, she went through a divorce and life in their house was rough. When we got engaged and started planning, I wanted her to feel included. Since she had no daughters, I invited her to my dress fittings. She was even there when I chose my dress.
Something I didn’t even have my own sisters there for. We started making centerpieces together, but she thought her ideas were better than mine. When my husband backed me up and told her it was my wedding and my choice, she got mad. Her family planned a surprise bridal shower, but they only invited my family the night before, less than 12 hours ahead of time.
My gosh. When my sisters couldn’t come on such a short notice, she blamed them for not showing up. Later, as the wedding got closer, I made the seating plan. I left a copy at her house since the boys were getting ready there, some people had told her, told me after I finished the plan that they were coming, but I wasn’t about to redo everything.
The venue already had my finalized chart. Fast forward a week or two, I went to make the final payment and the venue owner said, I swear your mother-in-law came in with a different seating plan. I asked if he was sure, and he admitted he wasn’t 100% certain, but it really seemed like it was for my wedding. I told him if she had brought one, it was absolutely not to be used, and he agreed.”
This is crazy. These stories, like I share all the time about a mother-in-law, like changing things and like just calling the venue. People are like, that doesn’t happen. I’m like, I get so many stories about it. And some venues don’t know. Maybe they know, but they just are scared to like stop someone. But they just don’t tell them no. ’cause they’re like, I, these two people telling me, it’s like each way.
“The day of the wedding, my best friend called me and said, my mother-in-law told her it was okay to use a new seating plan. I told her, no way in hell did I approve that. She and my husband ended ended up fighting because she claimed I didn’t involve her in enough. My husband and I even had a small argument the night before because it felt like I was defending.
I felt like he was defending her. He reassured me. He knew I had involved her. She was just being dramatic. Turns out she wanted the seating chart change because her ex-husband was given a lower number table than her. She threw a fit that her ex couldn’t be on her side. Meanwhile, wait, so her ex-husband had a lower number table. She wanted the ex to be on her side. Okay. Meanwhile, he was seated with my parents and extended family while she was at the front table, just the higher number attached.”
So if she would’ve looked at the big picture and like really understood, she’s like, the number doesn’t matter. Like, it’s like where you sit. That thing was like, that would probably like, I wouldn’t say stress me out, but I was really focused on making sure like. All the parents had like a good view of like the head table. We had a small, you know, area, but that’s hard ’cause you wanna make sure like everyone feels like loved and like they get a good spot and like we thought about them so the bride probably spent so much time making sure this like looked good. So to have the mother-in-law come and be like, we’re changing it because you gave me a higher number than him. It’s like, come on.
“She refused to take family photos together. We had to take separate pictures. Mothers of the groom and family on one side, and father of the groom and family on the other. She absolutely would not allow joint photos. After all of that, when we were printing our wedding photos later, she looked at me and said, don’t hold your breath. You’ll be divorced in a year.“ Oh my gosh. So that was her completely like backhanded. Com. I don’t, not even backhanded compliment. That was just completely out, off the wall. Angry and insecure, jealous, I don’t know what, you don’t call it. All of the above. “She ends it with, well, it’s been 11 years and we’re still happy. She still acts like she did nothing wrong, but at this point it just makes me laugh.”
Good times. I’m glad you can laugh about that. That is wild. Guys, I need to find a new, uh, objective. I can’t even say objective. Objective. Oh gosh. Leave it in. Whatever. People will make fun of me no matter what. So it’s fine. Um, anyways. That is so cool. So cool. That’s so crazy. It’s wild in these stories where then the person’s like, that never happened.
And it’s like you get all these stories sent to you and you’re just like. I wanna hear it from the mother-in-law’s perspective. Like what does she think happened? Does she think everything was just blown outta proportion or what? I had someone comment on a video recently saying like, this story is too wild to be true.
Do you vet all of these? And I’m just like, how? How do you want me to vet these? Do you want me to call up each person that sends in a story? Do you want me to go show up at their hometown? Do you want me to interview everybody? That’s part of the story. How would you like to see this done? That is kind of a good idea though.
Maybe for a future episode I have like multiple people from one story. I don’t know if most people would, would agree to it if one’s a villain, but it would be interesting. Then it might really turn into like a. Jerry Springer show, and I don’t, I don’t want any part of that. It’s fun reading these, I don’t know if it’d be fun, like delegating or being in the middle of them anyways.
Wedding Confessions: Garter Cringe, Off-White Drama & Best Man Scandal
Okay, that was, those were some wild stories this week. Um, we’re gonna end with some confessions, as always. We ask you guys to send your confessions on Instagram every Friday. So here’s some of the ones we got. “Younger cousin of the bride yelled. Why are we watching this during the groom getting the garter.”
Yeah. I mean, I’m right there with you. Why are we watching that? Why are we watching the groom crawl up the bride’s dress while we all stand there as if like, we don’t know what he is getting. I don’t know. It’s just, it’s a weird thing. I don’t know. I think it’s a dying tradition though. Uh, this says “I ended up sleeping with the best man in the groom’s bed.”
No regrets.” I’m hoping that’s not the bride. I, I don’t think, I don’t think that’s the bride, because she said in the groom’s bed. I dunno if it’s a guest. I don’t know if she’s part of the wedding. Okay. “My sister tried to wear an off-white dress to my other sister’s rehearsal dinner. She said it’s not white.“ The famous line, it’s not white, it’s it’s ivory. It’s not white. It’s cream. It’s not white. It’s beige. I mean, if you have to have the need to say, that’s probably white. That’s all I wanna say. Um, okay.
“My in-laws were comparing the two sons, weddings, homes, future kids, et cetera.” No, that’s, that’s set for disaster. That’s only creating competition between your kids.
“My mother-in-law purposely arranged my bridesmaid bouquets wrong, and then she said she couldn’t fix them.” Gosh, you guys, I feel so bad. I feel so bad.
“My future sister-in-law got upset at me because my DJ played a song that she wanted at her wedding day only.” Uh, DJs play a lot of songs at a lot of weddings. I don’t think anyone will remember unless it’s like your wedding song that you dance to with your husband or your partner, or it’s you walking down the aisle.
Even so most people won’t remember it, but if it’s just like on the dance floor, it’s, it’s not that serious. It’s okay. All right, guys. That’s all I have this week. Thank you so much for listening. If you love this episode, do me a huge favor and share it with a friend or take a screenshot, post it to your socials and tag me.
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